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‘Wena wa Njolela’ TV show to rummage cheaters

Publishing Date : 11 February, 2020

Author : KEAMOGETSE MOTONE

There are so many factors that lead to cheating in most relationships, and whilst most of the time women are victims of cheating, the need to be faithful when in a relationship can never be over-emphasized.

To set up a long lasting relationship, there is a need to give your partner a reason not to doubt your faithfulness. When a partner cheats, often people are left heartbroken, hence the famous television show, “Wena wa Njolela,’ which will be hitting local screens to in search of cheaters as well as exposing them.

Botswana’s version of ‘Cheaters’ has only one mandate for the country; to reduce the rate of cheating amongst couples, which they believe the show will play a significant role in ensuring that hearts are preserved.The reality show will start recording its first episode on the 27th of March 2020 and will be running as long as there are people seeking intervention through the show. Each episode is set to run for only 30 minutes. 

The most sought after show will air on Bonang TV, with other broadcasters said to come on board as time goes on. Producers of the show are still at the negotiation table with international broadcasters to expand viewership.In an Interview with WeekendLife, the Director of the show, who-for the time being wishes to remain anonymous, said, “We noticed that Botswana is behind with reality shows, and we thought of introducing something of its own kind and unfamiliar with anyone.  In as much as condoms are given out to prevent HIV, we believe the show will reduce cheating,” he said.

The show is more than ready to receive requests from partners who suspect their significant other is unfaithful. “For now, if anyone needs our services they can go on Facebook and search our page, ‘Wena wa Njolela’ and leave us a message there, and we will get back to them as soon as possible, we are still setting up our offices in Gaborone,” he said.When asked whether third parties’ identities will be disclosed during the show, he revealed that all persons involved in the investigation will be exposed. “We will not blur any images on the show, unless where we confront people and we find them in the house and not dressed, then we will blur the images to avoid nudity on our screens,” he added.

Infidelity can be one of the most painful and underrated emotional abuse in society, it can emotionally, mentally and or otherwise destroy someone, so much so that they do not only have trust issues but it may also play a part in how they see themselves (self -conscious). Scorned lovers, those as a result of infidelity, will relate to the many mental breakdowns they had and their inability to accept their reality, something which can lead to adverse repercussions. The show however, has considered such circumstances and they are ready for anything.“After the show we will have counselling offered to participants and not only after but before, whoever calls us, we will bring our counsellors to talk to them to ensure they are psychologically ready for any outcome,” he highlighted.

The show is ready for anything that may come as an obstacle, this includes possible lawsuits. “We are aware that there could be lawsuits against us but we are prepared for such should they surface,” he said.In case things get a little out of hand, there will be four (4) bodyguards with the crew to intervene.Mostly known for its controversy and radically taking firm measures to expose infidelity, the show is coming through with an age restriction. It will only open participation to people above 18 and participants will be required to disclose their national identity cards.

Organisers are very much aware of fraudsters who are likely to use the show to get back at their ex-lovers, and they will ensure that they are not victim of such instances. “Before the investigations can commence, we will run a background check on the relationship to ensure such does not happen and should we find that you are trying to get back at anyone there are consequences,’’ he said.WeekendLife took it to the people on their experience with cheating and their perspectives on it. When talking to a certain gentleman who preferred to be anonymous about his experience with cheating, he said when he noticed that he was being cheated on, he was left heartbroken and had to call it quits.“I was left stressed and disappointed as I thought she loved me the same way and had dreams and goals with me.

I thought we had opened a chapter that will lead to something, little did I know that I was being played. I was really disappointed’’, he said.He said that even after he had moved on, there was a part of him that was a bit sceptical about whether he will meet a loyal partner or not. “When you are cheated on at some point, it does obviously affect your next relation because you would ponder on the past wounds that they might come again but then again you get to realise that people are different which can allow you to be positive, that one day you will meet the one you can trust with your heart,” he said.Women tend to be more sensitive than men and they are often deeply ripped apart when they find out that they have been cheated on. Even though some are always forgiving, others are of the notion that there is no excuse for cheating.

Speaking to a 29 year old lady who also opted for anonymity, she narrated her story of how she found out her partner was cheating.“We were planning to go out for a brunch, he had some restaurant recommendations to show me on his phone but each time I looked at it, he would get anxious and made sure he looked me right in the eye to monitor if I was looking at exactly what he wanted me to look at. That is when I picked that he definitely had something to hide. So I went to his Instagram and looked at his messages and that is when I found nudes and noticed he was seeing and dating multiple women,” she said.

Although she was pained and bruised, she said she felt really stupid. “I was crushed yes, but I felt more stupid. But I took time to reflect and noticed that those were his actions not mine. So if anyone was stupid then it was him,” she said.Currently she is not eager to be in any relationship. “I had trust issues, but not in a general sense. I lost all respect and trust for him. Of course next time I decide to get in a relationship, I’ll be extra careful. Right now I have nothing against him,” she said.

A young man who had cheated on his partner at some point, who opted to be anonymous as well, shared with WeekendLife that although he knows that cheating can hurt someone, they are very much aware it is wrong, hence he feels doing it secretly won’t cause much harm because they are not guaranteed whether their partners are not cheating as well.

Psychological view on the show
Psychologist Keletso Tshekiso, told WeekendLife that the Cultivation Theory suggests that the more time people spend watching television, the more their conceptions of reality will reflect what they see on television. In other words, what one constantly views and learns on television is likely to become a part of their reality eventually.“In this case, I can assume that this particular program is likely to alter how society perceives issues related to promiscuity, infidelity and influence their attitudes and beliefs. It is still early to predict the "how part" although a hypothesis can be made,” she said.

She concluded that it is important for viewers to wisely decide on what TV content to watch and what not to view. “On the other side, television production companies as commercial institutions also have a greater responsibility to protect their viewers from any graphic, obscene or potentially harmful content. I think we must find common ground,” she said.

 

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