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Publishing Date : 04 February, 2019


Notwithstanding many people coming out to declare their sexuality in recent years, it seems society is still not getting used to the idea of males dating males or females being attracted to females. To some; being gay is a choice, while to some, being gay is a product of hormonal imbalances that causes such individuals to be attracted to people of similar sexes.

Homosexuality is a contentious debate the world over, even in developed countries such as the United States. For conservative countries like Botswana, it is even much harder for those who found themselves in this situation. Botswana law does not recognize gays, and the society also continues to reject them. This has by a great measure resulted in many people being cagey about their sexuality for the fear of being judged or not being accepted by society, and most importantly their families.

I am Gay - Molefinyane

Pryncy Molefinyane is a 20 year old from Mogobane village. He recently revealed to WeekendLife that growing up, he noticed that he was different from other boys. “I wondered why I didn't have the same feelings as other boys my age, and falling in love with playing with girls rather than boys my age. In a nutshell let me just say I discovered myself at a very early stage,” he said. Although many people are afraid of disclosing their sexuality, Molefinyane has never struggled.

“Being different has never haunted me. As an extrovert I have always had the confidence to defend myself. From my family I never came out clean to them suddenly out of the blue the whole family knew I was gay,” he said. Fortunate enough his family was supportive and never treated him otherwise and both his parents have been raising him well. “To be honest with everything, I was born this way and i don’t think I will change even if I had a chance to. This is the life God wanted me to have so I should live positively with it,” he said. Even if sometimes people pick up on him, he said he normally goes to his former guidance teacher for counselling.

How he came to terms with his sexuality?

Molefinyane said he did not believe that he was gay because of the things that other people around him said about gay people. “I once saw a pastor on TV preaching about how gay people were a danger to society,” he said. “That made me think that I can't be gay because I'm not like that at all. I was only 11 years old when the pastor said those things but still can't forget the look on his face,” he added. He said people had a lot of opinions about gay people of which he felt none of them were true.

At the age of 16 he could not hold back anymore. “The thought of being with a woman felt unnatural for me. I knew then that I was gay. Being gay did not bother me. It was the thought that people from the church would judge me if I came out. That caused me so much pain,” he said.

“From the outside, I was a normal teenager who enjoyed spending time with family and friends, and regularly attended church. But I was dying inside because I felt alone. I couldn't share my feelings with anyone because of fear of rejection. I have now accepted my true identity regardless of what people think,” he said. He has found a hobby in doing manicures for people and said he will be a judge at an upcoming pageant.



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